As we close the year, I want to help you all refocus, reflect, and prepare for the new year. Last year was a difficult year for many. There were a lot of lost relationships, broken friendships, families that divided, and people losing sight of who they were. When these things happen, I see it as an opportunity, not a set back. It is an opportunity to change how things were, in order to make them the way they’re supposed to be (good or bad). I’ve come to realize that nothing happens by chance, and even in the worst situation, there is a purpose. Take this opportunity to use your situation to push you forward!
Here’s what you need to do:
1. Do a personal inventory of yourself. Take some time away from the celebrations, and festivities of the weekend and try taking a look at how things are going in your life right now! You want to clean up some things before you can move forward. To help, download this personal inventory worksheet and set a few goals for yourself to work towards in 2016.
2. Start the work. Once you’ve taken a good look at how things are going, it’s time to make some changes. We always want to wait until the right time to make a change, but if we wait, we’ll never get to the things we want to do. I suggest getting started right away. Take another look at your Personal inventory worksheet, and start tackling your weak areas. If you’re feeling overwhelmed, start with the items that you can do right away, like starting a new habit. Although it takes about 28 to change a habit, you can start your 28 day change RIGHT NOW! So look at the habits you want to change and get started now.
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3. Think about how you’ve been doing love and relationships. What has been your pattern? Can you confidently say that you’ve put your best efforts into changing the way you date? If not, it’s time to change the way you’ve been doing relationships. A great start is the inventory, and then an action plan. This way you have been honest about how things are going. Now you need to do something different! Learn about how people give and receive love. This will help when you get into the relationship you’ve been desiring. A good place to start is here… This book changed the game for me, and if you haven’t read it yet, read it before you even begin to think about doing another relationship.
4. Create a relationship mission statement and live by it! One of the first things a person who is interested in an organization does is ask about its mission statement. The mission statement is what drives the organization and centers it, if things gets off track. Your mission statement does not have to be elaborate, or crazily detailed, but it must have substance and state what you want to govern your life and relationships by. Want to learn how? Click here.
By the end of these 4 steps, you’ll be in the position to accept and receive the kind of relationship that will help you flourish. There’s nothing better than meeting the person that challenges you and bring you to another level!
2016 is your year! I hope you’re ready.