1. Germs are real: I remember cringing every time someone would plant a kiss on the cheek of my 3 day old baby. I had become aware of all the germs that could possibly be intruding his little body. By the time he was two weeks old, I set a “no kiss” rule until he was a little older. Were people offended? Hell yes! But I didn’t care, germs are real and babies have died from loving friends and family members who kiss and pass deadly viruses to them. To me, it wasn’t worth it. So I chose to protect my brand new baby, even if it was at the cost of a few hurt feelings.
2. It’s Your baby: To piggyback off of my first point, it’s your baby and when babies get sick, guess who has to stay up all night? YOU! If there is something you don’t want people doing with your baby, just tell them. I never realized how fragile people’s egos were until I started telling people to wash their hands before they touched the baby’s bottle, or to cover their clothes with a receiving blanket when they come to visit. It was as if I were telling them something offensive. Lucky for me, I was fully aware of the fact that this was my child and my responsibility as a mother was to ensure his safety. My baby, my rules. Period!
3. They DON’T have a clue about what it is like to be a parent: Having a baby makes you realize how ignorant you were about being a parent. I would give new moms the side eye if I felt they were being neurotic or (forgive me) give them advice about how to do something a better or more efficient way. What an idiot I was! I am now that (slightly) neurotic mother who recognizes that if my baby is crying, he isn’t being a “brat”. He’s hungry or tired, and is simply communicating this in the best way he knows how. If I’m a little late to an event, it’s not because I am horrible with planning, it’s because getting ready is now an ENTIRE PROCESS, which is far more complicated, and has more moving parts than before. But if you don’t have children, it’s not so easy for you to understand.
Embarking on such a challenging part of your life requires you to come out of your comfort zone, and do what you have to do to preserve you and your family. Do what you know how to do for your little ones, as best as you can, and forget about trying to make everyone else around you feel comfortable with the new you!