In these times, it’s easy for a relationship to fall off track. Social media, busy work schedules, friends, and family can all get in the way of nurturing your significant others. But there’s hope! If stress derails your relationship, you can take steps to get it back on track by recognizing the problems and committing to change.
When couples come to a point where they believe they have disconnected, the often find themselves open to things like infidelity, resentment, or even contempt. The problem is not that these emotions arise, the problem is that the often go ignored.
In order to get things back on track, you need to be able to acknowledge that things have gone wrong, and then work together to fix them. Here’s a few tips you can use to get things back in order:
- Take responsibility for your part: Accept responsibility for your role in the problems and apologize to your partner. A sincere apology is one of easiest ways to address the hurtful consequences of words or deeds you wish you could take back. It also shows that you have been thoughtful, and want to make amends.
- Practice self-care: Yes! Taking care of yourself will greatly benefit how you reconnect to your relationship. Spend time doing things you want to do. In so doing, you will bring the passion of your interests into the relationship. Your self-reliance and goals are attractive. Spend time with your friends, engage in your favorite hobbies and get plenty of rest.
- Communicate effectively: Good communication keeps your relationship alive and well. Take the time to connect and talk about big and little issues. Listen without judgment and demonstrate respect for your partner’s concerns, problems and successes. Discuss problems in your relationship in a manner that shows respect for your partner’s feelings. Avoid complaints that may be interpreted as a personal attack.
- Forgive: Forgive each other. Both you and your partner have done things to hurt the other. Instead of holding a grudge and choosing to be angry, let go of your partner’s offenses and give him a chance to show you that he loves you. By forgiving those who have hurt you, you release pain and are freed from focusing on what the person did to offend you.
- Spend time together: Many couples live with a chronic sense of deficit about the amount of time they spend together. Instead of zoning out in front of the television or becoming engrossed in a book, make the decision to spend more of your free time together. Whether the two of you have an intimate conversation, go on a walk together or just watch a movie together, the moments you choose to spend with one another instead of doing something apart will make a positive difference in your relationship.
It takes work on the part of both parties to get a fallen relationship back on track. If you are with someone who does not excite you the way he used to, or who causes you more stress than pleasure, you may feel there is little hope for your relationship. In truth, you might need to do a little soul-searching and re-examine the way you are approaching the seemingly hopeless situation to find a way back to happiness. By following these basic steps, you can become close to your partner again and restore your relationship to what it used to be.