Depression is a difficult illness that darkens your thoughts and feelings. It saps your self-esteem, energy, motivation and interest in anything. It’s also tough on romantic relationships. depression diminishes your ability to connect with your partner and creates doubts about your union. Symptoms such as anger and irritability can create tension between partners.
Depression breeds self-doubt, which can color how you view your partner and how you think they view you.
Depression minimizes the positives in your life and magnifies the negative. When depression manifests as criticism, your partner might feel like they’re walking on eggshells and worry about being condemned. What helps to counter criticism is noticing your partner’s positive traits and realizing that their less-than-stellar qualities don’t cancel out their positive attributes.
You may have an internal script that dictates the right things your partner should say and how they should support you. The problem with that, she says, is your partner hasn’t read your script. Remember that your partner isn’t a mind reader. Communicate clearly and directly with them about how you’d like to be supported.
You feel hopeless about your relationship:
A sense of hopelessness is one of the central predictors of depression and suicidal thoughts. Feeling hopeless about your future together doesn’t necessarily mean you’re doomed. Instead, cognitive distortion that so often comes with depression may be manipulating your thoughts into believing the future looks hopeless and that things will never get better. While everyone feels overwhelmed about the future at times, this pervasive sense of hopelessness is a signal that depression is skewing your perception.
With all of these challenges, it might seem like the odds are stacked against a relationship where depression is involved. But many of these issues can be resolved once you’re aware of them and can implement effective coping strategies. It’s only when the issues are hidden and ignored that irreparable damage may occur.